The Conscious Connection Code
Our social Code of Conduct
Our code of conduct has been crafted to ensure our guests feel safe, respected and comfortable at all times.
The Speed Dating Wine Tour operates on what we call our Conscious Connection Code; everything is underpinned by a three-part structure of Safety, Respect and Vibe. As a connection-led, elevated social experience, these standards help everyone get clear on expectations and protect the vibe for everyone.
Safety
Individuals are expected to follow rules, regulations and safety measures to keep the day fun for everyone.
Transport providers are licensed and insured, and all venues operate under RSA regulations. For everyone’s safety, guests are expected to:
- Follow host and driver instructions
- Stay seated where required and requested
- Be mindful when walking near roads, carparks, steps, and uneven ground
- Arrive back on time at each stop so the group stays on schedule
If something feels off, please speak to the host. You can do so quietly or discreetly if needed, and you will always be taken seriously.
Our host is there not only to guide the day, but also to protect the group dynamic and ensure each guest’s comfort and emotional safety.
We can:
- Speak to someone directly if they are making you or someone else uncomfortable, without mentioning you by name
- Provide support with discreet check-ins with you as needed
- Subtly rearrange a space or seating configuration so you feel more comfortable
- Remove someone from the tour and escalate to security if appropriate
To protect the group, SDWT reserves the right to refuse entry or remove a participant at any time.
Anyone behaving inappropriately or becoming excessively intoxicated will be asked to leave or removed from the tour. Inappropriate behaviour includes:
- Harassment or boundary violations
- Unsafe behaviour (physical and/or psychological)
- Aggression or intimidation
- Excessive intoxication
- Breaching venue rules or RSA requirements
- Ignoring or refusing to comply with staff, host or driver instructions
- or any behaviour deemed inappropriate for any reason by the host.
Even if a participant feels that they have been removed unfairly, the ultimate safety of the group comes first and SDWT reserves the right to err on the side of caution in order to preserve this. Removal may occur without refund.
Vibe
Come with an open mindset, and leave the performative dating energy at the door.
This is a space where you don’t need to impress. Our experience is designed intentionally to feel low-pressure and relaxed, so you can show up as your natural self.
Let go of expectations, stay curious, and see where conversations take you.
No party bus, heavy drinking, or hook up energy.
Our tour is an elevated experience for individuals seeking something more substantial from their dating events. We’re here for real conversation, good energy, and a relaxed day out. This means that heavy drinking and hook ups are not the right vibe.
Considered, connection-led, and conscious.
Enjoy the wine, but know your limits. Responsible drinking helps keep the day comfortable for everyone.
Alcohol is served by licensed venues under RSA regulations. We ask you to:
- Pace yourself
- Stay aware of your behaviour and volume
- Look out for others
- Never pressure anyone else to drink
We reserve the right to intervene if anyone appears excessively intoxicated or unsafe. This may include being refused service by venues, being asked to sit out on activities, or being removed from the tour.
Phones, photos and privacy, we ask you to prioritise being present.
You are welcome to bring cameras or take photos on your phone during the tour, but we want to make sure everyone feels present and engaged. This means some light rules around how we capture and share content on the day.
If you are planning on taking photos or videos:
- Ask before taking photos or videos that show a guest’s face or otherwise identify them
- Respect the decision of anyone who does not want to be on camera, and always take no for an answer the first time (enthusiastic consent only)
- Don’t post photos or videos that show a guest’s face or otherwise identify them without their explicit consent
SDWT may capture non-intrusive group imagery or video for promotional use during the tour, but we will never post content showing faces of participants without express written consent.
Respect
Connection should feel mutual and natural, never pressured. All guests are expected to treat everyone with respect and maturity.
We have zero tolerance for:
- Harassment, intimidation, bullying, or aggressive behaviour
- Sexual comments or unwanted flirting that crosses a line
- Discrimination of any kind
- Arguing, yelling, or anything that makes others feel unsafe
- Any behaviour that negatively impacts the experience for others
Consent and personal boundaries are always respected. If it’s not an enthusiastic yes, consider it a no.
You are expected to obtain clear consent, which includes:
- Asking before touching, even casually
- Respecting body language and verbal cues
- Not following someone around if they’re not reciprocating your interest
- Not pushing for explanations, questioning or negotiating the limits of someone’s boundaries, always take no for an answer the first time
Read the room. If someone isn’t interested in continuing a conversation, simply move on with dignity and grace.
Not all interest is reciprocated, and that’s a natural part of dating events, not something to be ashamed of or embarrassed by. If someone is giving you cues or clear indications they’re not interested, you are expected to maturely accept this and move on.
Passive aggression or otherwise retaliatory tactics will be considered a violation of our social code.
- Treat everyone with kindness and maturity
- Be inclusive, polite, and considerate
- Respect personal space and boundaries
- Accept a no gracefully, no pushing, no pressure
- Keep conversations respectful, even if there’s no spark
